While having something to drink after dessert...I kinda explained to John what he was part of now and asked him if that was something he was ok with and interested in or rather not.
J felt so much more secure now when listening to me talking to John what to expect and do...seemed as if she intuitively knew John and here were both mentored by me, that gave her some basic safety ...

She was asking if she could switch later on as well...out of the blue this came. John didnt understand immediately what she was looking at...though when I explained he understood that he and J would play in different setings and roles.

The biggest fear of J was that she would not be in control, that is what she saw when at home her dad was all about control...same time she is a little girl, submission is what she gets into when others are taking control of her and when it comes to her in control she has a curiosity in regards how far she could go with a guy and what she could let him do...that always have been a fantasy deep down inside.
Important was for me to show her that by letting someone being in control she would be in control at the same time.

We discussed the possibilities....
John's partner was sitting at the other table and not a part of what was going on.so far, though I felt she should know what was coming up..at least inform her about the plans I and J had for her John since she had to be ok with it too.
She was asked to come over and sit down...I explained what I was doing with J and John now was part of this guidance of J. She looked puzzled...I saw she loved the open and honest communication...involving her...she felt ok and asked if she could view from a distance...
She showed something I recognised as love for her partner and wanted him to be safe. Also...she admitted she loves to watch..the peeking at her of boys when at school created her peeking at girls and boys now as an adult. When she heard John would have the chance to treat J as a slut she opened up big time. Maybe later I share what fed Karen's excitement. She just said that when John would be ok with this she was too....they hadnt had the experience of play with being submissive and dominant.

She went back to her table and J, John and I continued talking. I showed some clamps for J and John to play with. Also...I told J that pics of her and John would be taken....she loves it...although it frightens her that other people see those pics. No face shown and yep...I knew that one of the possibilities to get as deep as possible would be sharing intimate pictures and confront her with this reality sooner or later...not now. John was so excited he didnt mind at all.
The rest of the evening was about to start.......

All the people were asked to leave the restaurant space and get ready for the lingerie part. J had some beautiful lingerie and her, John and I went to the dressing rooms.
When we came back...there was nice music and J seem to feel comfi...she and John danced and I could see that John still felt a bit awkward about what he got himself into.
Karen winked at me and came over with some questions about my work and how I created this work in my life and of course what type of women were ok with this...the usual questions...I only had to point to J to let her see that basicly women from all walks of life were looking to get to the core doing this type of therapy. I sure sensed the curiosity Karen showed and it was just a matter of time until she would open more to share what her story was., I soon found out.
Karen saw her John dancing with J...nothing much was going on...I asked J to come over and let me share what was going to happen the next 30-60 minutes.
Asked her if she was ready to become John's slut and let him treat her as his slut.....she chuckled..though said she was.

The 3 of us went through the scene I had written down...the tutoring is as follows and we would go to a room where people only could watch from the outside.....

"Slut may use the pliers on her nipples as we speak."

"Yes, sir. This slut will comply."

"Does slut prefer to be lotioned ?"

"If it pleases sir , not just yet."

"Yes, of course."

"This slut thanks You, sir. How many times shall slut recite Your penance, sir?"

"As slut's pennance... she will recite the following: 'pain slut grieves that she has displeased sir and will atone' "

" As You command of this one, sir, I will obey."

"Slut will begin by closing the pliers around her left nipple... she will press moderately hard, twist, and pull forward, then retract... and back again... 20 times…as slut recites her penance."

"Yes, sir."

"Is that understood?

"Yes, sir."

"Slut may begin her penance. The safe word is 'desire'. When slut has completed her task on her left nipple, she may begin on her right."

* * * * * * * * * *

"Done, sir."

"Good. Now…slut is to close the pliers around her left nipple again... squeeze and pull to their farthest extent, then twist, and hold it as she recites her penance 25 times... and as she does... slut may caress her pussy. Has slut understood?"

"Yes, sir, this slut understands and thanks You for the additional attention."

"Slut may begin... and when done with the left, slut may pay similar attention to the right."

"As you directs."

* * * * * * * * * *

"Yes, sir, this slut is done."

"Good. Is slut okay?"

"I am, sir. I do not know what to say right at this time."

"sir is confused."

"Sluts mind is overloaded with such incredible sensations from her partner's slut nipples. I can't think, just feel and lust, Rob."

"Very well."

"Slut may repeat the penance... but 28 times…"

"Yes, sir."

"…and close the pliers harder."

"I will, sir, I will."

"Slut may begin. Remember to continue to caress your pussy. Slut may also taste herself."

J and John and I went upstairs and I sat down in the corner of the little room...gave John the clamps.
John and J felt like kids in the candy store doing this...kind of....
The pain part was something J didnt have experience with...I wondered how she would do...and what insights it would give her of herself...I just had the camera ready and my notebook as well...

The effects ..results we would discuss some other time... next blog I will share some things about the mental state of J and and then I share the part of John being subject to having a woman ordering him around. Also Karen will come back into the story...you will like that I think.
I was stunned with what I saw happening in J's mind.

So......more later

Took me a while...

Dessert time part of the transforming experience.

J and I were talking about life and suddenly the guy she showed her sex to was standing at our table...she was going out of her mind..excited and blushing, anxiety...and later on she was telling me....immediately dripping wet.

John his name was...asked if it would be ok to get seated with us...
While having icecream and coffee/tea we chit chat about all kinda things, most John and I were talking, J was silent and shy...
I told her, whenever you feel shy...imagine you are running your household...see the determined woman you are and copy that part and be that woman right here right now. I could see she was trying....
As said before she liked to be submissive..kind of safe feeling that someone she trusted was guiding and mentoring her.
So while we were chit chatting I decided ...it is time to play with emotional balance.
I told John that he could take another look at the vagina of J...asked J one more time if she agreed that she would spread a bit and open up her labia for John. Yes she said, with trembling hands she moved her pussylips of eachother showing the pink flesh.
John sighed and asked if it would be ok to touch her...

I told him to give her more time...and just enjoy the view. Sudenly J decidedto speak and made the suggestion that Joghn could touch her breasts..he accepted immediately and opened up her blouse and I helped unbutton J's blouse and taking off her bra. Tables around us were packed with people gaping at what was happening here.
I could see John taking the nipples between his fingers..pulling a bit.
I told him what to do...'let her be your nippleslut'..''you are in charge and as soon J wants out, she has to mention my name.
Order her around and tell her what to do with her nipples here in public''...she looked frantic...I knew she loved it and same time lots of anxiety...
So, John looked at me and then at J, I noticed I surprised him with this suggestion...

He was telling ...he was not used to act like this...but would like to try if J would be ok with it...she loved his words...it made her feel a bit more comfi..John actually showed some softness which made her feel more in charge then she thought she would be initially.

So..I handed John a piece of paper to read and to work with...
I could see he was excited to play this way...
His friends were looking at us...no idea what we were talking about.... I had brought some little clamps with me and handed them over to John...now he showed a huge grin...
J had a look at the clamps and looked afraid...asking me with her facial expression...what is this? What are you doing to me?
I told John as well as J...play with this...just obey to John...I know that you like to be submissive and John seems to be ok with being in charge..

The piece of paper had a text...saying what each of them had to follow...kind of like a text in their own little play..........J would be slut and John the one in charge....

John was reading the first line of text and I was checking J's face...
........."Slut may use the pliers on her nipples as we speak."

her text would then be......."Yes. This slut will comply." ...J was silent...she froze...

J just lost it for 5 minutes.

I told her to relax...we sat down to see hat she wanted to do...John sitting and listening.
J found herself again and said she would be ok to play and see what it was doing with her...
I just imagined that some light play would be best right now..so, told her to open her legs and show John what her sex looked like.....we would put the tuturing J in action later that evening. I did my work...paved the way for what I had in mind.
Told John to fondle her under the table...I watched J's face....softened..saw John's fingers playing with her labia..and inserting few fingers inside her vagina.
This all went now easy....since the two of them were still kind of somewhere else with their mindset.

She loved it...he of course had an erection...J looked at his crotch and I tld her to rub him under the table.

After a while I felt it would be time to add something of the play I initially started with. and took charge of the situation...ordered John to pull J's clit....a bit hard..pull until she says ouch..J looked at me..I just moved my head saying go ahead...let me see what and how you react. She agreed..so John took her clit in between his fingers and started pulling....way to soft...
Asked J if it would be ok when I showed how I wanted it to be done...she told me to go ahead...I pulled hard and she screamed..ouch loud and clear...most of the other people looked at us even more surprised...
Now John and J knew what to do....


Next time I continue with telling about the transforming of J.

I knew immediately there are women who love experiencing personal growth at this level.

Attraction........Romance, Courtship and Love's Potential. These words were mentioned in regards to what was about the unconscious, unknown to myself, unknown to others. At  that time I was told it said...this is an area that that is fertile with new ideas and also where we hold limiting beliefs. This is an area of ourselves most affected by working with horses.

Anyway..... I asked more information that would help me becoming an authentic guide...doing excactly that what it is I have to do.
Trust in the unknown and the unformed, faith in my own vision and believing in the power of my authentic self. Having an enlightened perspective and an expanded awareness is something I know about myself, activating wisdom through experience is what I am doing. Being open for spiritual cleansing, there is fuel for transformation.

Realising my potential and seeing the fruit of partnership, ....I am reaching the next level and enjoying the view and also do find pride in the achievements
I am more in allignment with the value of this than ever before and more is possible.

It is a kick...awesome to feel the trust a woman feels by putting herself in my hands,...feeling the fear...the excitement...eagerness to see the contrasts, wanting to experience more than she ever dare to say to a partner or herself ......for a big part because she has a strong wanting to finally relying on her gut feeling that what she is looking for she will experience.

Some love to play with the fantasies they have and deep down dont understand and/or ignore they do have 'em. And certainly don't feel like sharing these fantasies with their husband or boyfriend, or any other familymember, a secret part of them. Some because
 their inner being needs to resolve a core issue and they finally found someone who they know has no hidden agenda and they can talk straight forward with without being judged and taken advantage of.

So, sharing some stories here........now and then my thoughts take over....talking to myself talking about technical information...what it is people do and are thinking of.

My dominant side is well developed...love to put my partner in a situation she loves when it still is fantasy but feels like screaming fear when she finds herself doing it in real life and of course dripping wet while crossing her boundaries. And knowing she is safe with me
Playing with assignments is so cool. Same time I can be and play the sub enjoying her in charge. That combination made it fit in well. Either I give a woman who wants to experience and live out fantasies seeing her personal growth because she relies on the male or she is in charge and directing. Either way a woman will experience her tresholds.....

Let me think of where to start with sharing....probably with sharing here what happens in the mind when exposed to a situation where the woman is afraid to show her body in kind of public surroundings as a bar and doing it anyway because she is brought to that edge of where her belly...nipples....vagina are talking to whoever, including  to herself. 
A girl who has grown up and became a woman and at same time is trying to hold on to staying that uncertain teenager ...not knowing where to open up to the people she meets and feeling vulnerable about her own identity. I will try to explaing what made her do what she did with men she had to experience sexual tension during dinner and later show herself.  Overcoming that fear made her the woman who she is now. A virgin when she met her first boyfriend....now accepting the assignment to give a man she feels attracted to the chance to see her body in full.

My thoughts are put on "paper"...helps me to keep things recorded for my own practice.

Later this week more.....

Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn't do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines, Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.
--Mark Twain

the contrast of life....be well, you are...just b.

Lets have a look at the core of your life and what people put in a room behind closed doors...It feels kinda safe ...I came across several women doing a good job on that.

In life, does a female find herself in a situation of being vulnerable, naked, afraid, not sure what to do, not sure what to say, wanting to have her own space?....
Numerous ways of possibilities what a woman finds herself in, whether being single or when in a relationship and not feeling comfi to be able being her true self and free to express her inner self.
How to leave feeling insecure and lost behind you?
Direction, security and confidence within a relationship is not for all of you out there ...either you have chosen to be single, even when you think you didnt make that choice deliberately....you choose the life you are living. Who or what is the sunshine in your world,  who or what is the air you breath and food for your soul. Looking at your life what and who is your present and your future and the resolution of your past. Are you caged without freedom in someone's or your own "chains". Has someone or yourself earned your respect and trust and do you strive to honor yourself or a partner in everything you do and say. Is your desire to serve yourself or your partner and bring pleasure. Does your partner or you find pleasure in your successes, in your submission to your happiness and in your sensuality?
Is this reality??? It is....

When women decide to work with me at this level they literally feel like throwing off all covers...they realised that what they thought would be scary is nothing new to what they have done and experienced so far in their life. Actually this part is way easier and now they see they can be in charge by having the rudder of their lives in their own hands.

This work shows it because it is smaller...and by stepping out of the circle of their life they see. They see that they are not required to accept any and everything that people are telling  them. In becoming a part of working with me they are not giving up their voice, free will or right to express what they want to and feel like...the contrary. They suddenly see that that is what they do all day ...every day in their day to day life.

Love, trust .....surrender.
A true power exchange is when it excites and satisfies, in other words that what sets free.