J met her boyfriend when she was 17 yrs old, still a virgin....that also became her husband when she was not even 20 years old.
At the age of around mid 30...been penetrated by one man only, her husband...great is that...right? From then on she start having feeling things....fear and doubt, issues came up...once I started getting delving into what was behind the mask she shared what she was yearning for. She didn't have a clue what deepskin meant though she trusted me and believed I could show her things she would like to know deep down inside her inner self...I told her that this could be very confrontating for her to see that side of her which she kind of was curious about but no way near knew about.
Being raised as a girl next door...dominant dad...switchy mom, strong, though submissive most of the time to J's dad...not sexually wise though in general their life was like that.
Though J wasn't traumatised by being humiliated big time herself, she experienced humiliations..her dad humiliated his wife more than once.

J has been pushed to let her hubby make nude pictures of her and he loved to see her play with other men. He must have known which buttons to push...but she pretty much rejected....

Once we got closer ...she knew we would be strictly therapeutic...no intercourse with eachother...she showed me her submissive and dominant side. The little girl...all innocent she was....this part of her was easy to see in a setting where a man felt his supremacy and chance to let her do things he would love her to do. The dom side...the girl who she seem to be in day to day life...arranging everything that was all about being a mom and wife. Strong...determined....no chance to mess with her life and ideas.
It was the mix where I saw the key of letting her grow. Creating situations where she could thrive sexually having sex with men she would submit herself to for a small part and playing with them where she could be in charge....and play with humiliation...being humiliated and humiliate men. 
She always was afraid that others would seeher body...nude that is...same time she felt drawn to ideas where she was able to be in control when naked with a stranger and direct this man...letting him do whatever she wanted him to do.

I suggested to start by going to a swingers bar...where she could interact being fully dressed in the beginning and in lingerie later on. She accepted the idea though told me she basicly doesn't like it...the personality of the little girl would freeze...the level headed woman would despise the women and men there...though would bring a bit of balance in that setting. She is a beautiful woman...I knew she would meet at least one guy she felt attracted to.
That night she picked me up and we drove to the bar....she was dressed in lace stockings...mini skirt...high heels...long coat...the coat made feel her safe.
One agreement made a big difference in how things would go...I would be in charge in regards to what to do when the little girl would kick in.

Once inside she noticed that it seemed that the setting was relaxed and bit restaurant style...more of a restaturant than a bar.
The buffet dinner was good....she came back from getting herself some food and all excited she was telling me...'you know, some dude came over to me ...asking...lets lay down next to eachother later tonight'...she was excited yet the little girl froze right at that moment she said..so, she just said nothing and looked him into the eyes.
So...referring to our agreement I said....'listen, pull down your panties now, and go to that guy and tell him you would like him to have a look at your vagina...and spread your lips show him the pink soft inside of your sex'.... and very important, your panties will be all the way down to your ankles while you are walking to him'. After that you tell him that when having dessert he is invited to come to your table to touch your nipples and fondle your pussy. She absolutely froze the same second.....Could see she was back in her childhood...I let her see that she would exprience both sides of that...told her just do what I tell you and that later she would be empowered.... we would discuss later.
Amazing what happened that moment...she indeed pulled down her panties...all the way down and walked to the guy..he was having dinner with a few other guys and girls, looked up and I saw her talk to him.  She was all blushing and very uncomfortable. Then....he responded with a huge smile, big eyes and obviously ready for what was coming...she pulled up her miniskirt and showed her shaven sex....could see the excitement there and her feeling humiliated...It happened all in just a few seconds. When she was back she started crying in silence...tears were running down her cheeks...I comforted her a bit and let her see the idea behind this...took a few minutes before she got balanced out...she was ready to have the guy over for dessert....

Will write about dessert and more later......................